This weekend crawled up on me with a range of ideas, a backlog of indecisions and one two many reasons not to be anxious. Words have been uttered with actions to validate them; deeds have gone on an unannounced journey, left astray by thoughts, but that’s not even the major hitch. The problem is the verdict is split between two onlookers – the one who sees fault in everything you do and the one who feels you shouldn’t even be attempting to do stuff on your own. Mannerisms of the former are quite clear – they make you feel inadequate and they are so good at condemning everything you do and fail to do. That actually leaves out NO good impression. The latter? Oh, the latter is everything the former is not. But do they actually exist?
A lot of our deeds are blamed on influences from the company we keep, the neighbourhood we grew up, and sometimes our inability to decipher good from evil, by merely taking a gaze. The truth is, most of the people who judge you do so on the basis of what they heard about you rather than what they know about you. One bad impression can sum up your entire life, and create a lifelong bitter testimony. But don’t be fooled. The one who doesn’t criticize you may have more against you than the one who frequently calls you out. I know the next question is “who then is the good guy? The one who sees and talks, or the one who sees and keeps shut?” There lies the complication. I leave you to your discretion.
The answers to every question cannot be answered by any. Some people tend to have answers to everything, even though half the time they are clueless. Sometimes it takes almost a lifetime to understand the seemingly simple things…or to come to terms with their reality.
I have come to understand that the answers to some of these questions lie in the acceptance of the situation, and the peace you find within. It doesn’t necessarily mean physically settling for the worst because you feel you don’t have what it takes to achieve the best. Besides, who really knows what’s best for you?
Aight, here’s me being logical. If we knew why everything happened, this knowledge will take away the fun of being human. Sincerely, many, if not all of us, like to be adventurous. As in, who wouldn’t want to learn something new, every other day? New ways on how to answer questions at interviews, how to fix our favourite delicacies, how to dress well, how to study effectively, how to fussily manage our time and resources… the list continues.
I mean, even those who are ridiculously wealthy still wake up everyday thinking of other ways to invest their time and money. Think of ‘knowing everything’ as not having room for ‘learning anything’; think of ‘knowing everything’ as a child who is born with speech and an accent from day one. Okay, that last illustration sounds scary already, cos we’re not used to seeing stuff like that, right? But I’m sure you get my drift. Growth, curiosity and the quest for knowledge are a few of the vital elements that make being human sensational.
People will say stuff about you that ain’t right, but keep moving; They will try to discourage you or devalue your exploits, but keep moving; You may have soaked up all these negativity, but you still have an opportunity to sanitize your mind, so the earlier you start, the better.
Don’t plan to fail, and don’t be scared to fail either. The former just paints you in all colours of folly, while the latter bares the courage in you to win… or at least give it a shot.
Don’t create limitations for yourself and disguise them as goals. If you can conceive it, then it is definitely attainable. The problem is you may end up chasing after what you don’t necessarily need (It's complicated. I know). Nothing brings much pleasure to naysayers than seeing you perish in ignorance.
Maybe the answers to certain questions have been kept away from us intentionally. It is now left to us to discern, and selectively accept the things we can’t change. Note the word ‘selectively’. We’ve been told to accept the things we can’t change, but it's easier said than accepted.
Above all, Trust God. God is faithful, even when we go through tests that seemingly exceed what we can handle. Whether you accept it or not, there are forces fighting against your progress in all ramifications of life. I battle with them, too.It's not God's desire that any perish, so cling to His thoughts towards you, but first, get rid of anything that disconnects you from Him.
As long as you are alive, there will always be a better day, and something new to look out for. Be anxious for nothing. In everything you do, put God first. Let Him guide your thoughts and actions. It really is the simplest way to survive all the complications of life.
Aight, close your eyes…take a few deep breaths…and wait for my next post.
Work hard. Pray harder. Trust God
